Self-Love

        We are the heroes and heroines of our story called life. We human beings are more self-centered. We keep ourselves before anyone around us and it is the common character of most people in the world. Here,  there is nothing wrong with holding that attitude but make sure that doesn't affect the people around us, especially our near and dear ones in life. 

       

        Respect, love, care, and cherish yourself because that leads to happiness but never intentionally hurt others in the process of taking care of yourself. Love yourself as much as possible because self-care makes us evolve stronger and emerge positive in life. 

     

         Be the best version of yourself and upgrade yourself with good thoughts and values. Most importantly, STAY POSITIVE

Respect Individuality

 

     One of the common complaint which many people in the world often make is “everyone around us are not perfect”. We think that the people around us should lead their life in the same way we live - the qualities we practice, the deeds we do and even the same way we behave & react to any particular situation in our life.

     Here, we have to understand that the qualities we practice depends upon our own value system and in the same way each one in the world will have their own set of values &beliefs. We have to respect others and the values they practice in life if not we should not expect the people around to follow the values which we practice. Everyone is different and so all the people will have different focus in life. Respect others by valuing their individuality.

     When the qualities of others hurt you think of that from the opposite person’s point of view and perspective then validate whether that quality of that particular individual is acceptable from their point of view. Never judge and valuate anyone without knowing them. Life is all about understanding and accepting. So, understand and accept things and make yourself happier.

 

 

 

Stop Seeking Validation

 

     We human beings love to hear appreciations from the people around us and especially from the people whom we love in life. A word of appreciation means a lot to every individual in the world. We do most of the hardest things in life to gain appreciation and validation. When the people around us does not appreciate us for the good deeds we have done we might feel hugely disappointed. That disappointment stored within us will get transformed into anger after some time. The anger caused out of disappointments are not easy to heal rather those anger will make us hurt ourselves as well as the people around us.

     Here, practice not to develop the quality of expecting appreciations from the people around you for the good deeds you have done. On the other hand, develop the quality of appreciating the people around you for even the simplest things they have done in their life. Start to give the things which you expect and long for in life. The process of giving does not seem any approval from anyone around us. So, give things which you love to receive and with time it will get transformed into your character.

     Never long for anything rather be an giver. At, first it may hurt us but with each passing moment in life all our worries will get vanish off. Never expect appreciation and validation for the good deeds you have done in your life because that appreciation which you expect may not arrive at the time which you expect. So, never be shaken up by any external factors rather be you and do what you love to do.

 

Kindness = Godliness

 

     We human beings acquire many good qualities to make our life a more beautiful one but one of the best qualities which make us a wonderful human being is the “act of kindness”. We think that “Cleanliness is equal to godliness” but I believe that “Kindness is equal to godliness”. A human heart which does not possess the quality of kindness loses the beauty of life. A kind heart finds goodness everywhere. The kind-hearted human being loves all the good things around them and they just ignore all the negativity.

     The kind person may seem be an biased individual from everyone’s point of view and the people around them may think that the person is not loyal. But, a kind hearted human being will never even try to prove themselves as the kind person rather they will just be kind. Accusing others, telling that they are wrong, pointing that they are unfair is the easiest task which everyone can easily do but understanding the unfair nature of others and accepting that and being kind to them is the quality of divine.

      Be a kind human being and just love everyone around you. Life becomes beautiful when your heart is filled with love and kindness. Respect the people who are kind towards you irrespective whatever you do to them.

Life

 

    So many things in life makes our living beautiful but only things makes our life worth living for. The people who walked in this earth before us, the people who walk along with us and the people who are younger to are the ones who make our life a better one. We human beings practice and follow the qualities which are taught by our fellow humans. The character which we own is the mixture of the qualities which we attracted from the people around us. Here, the world is filled with many human beings with different characters but we attract the ones which we love. So, what we choose to follow defines our individuality.

     There are infinite good as well as bad examples before us but the option we choose becomes our quality. Everyone we meet in our life will teach us something new which may attract us or sometimes irritate us. Choose the qualities which attracts you the most and follow them in life. Life is beautiful in infinite ways but it is left to the human beings to explore that beauty and find the happiness through their journey.

     Look and approach life with all the exciting things. Believe in your emotions and stay rooted to your good beliefs. Life is beautiful, beautiful, beautiful, beautiful and beautiful. Read that last line once again a bit louder and realize the real beauty of life.

Everything Is Beautiful In Its Own Way

 

     Change is the only thing which never changes but all other things in life are unpredictable and changeable. The seasons which we cherish, enjoy and even hate are also the ones which changes after each passing month. Once in three months the season changes and we experience hot summers, cold winters, drizzling rains, flowery autumn and spring. In the same way, the rain which we witness today won’t be the same after few months because summer will send us the hot sun which holds its own beauty.

     Whatever the climate and season it may be try to adopt and enjoy the beauty of that particular season. We human beings have the tendency of thinking about the summer season during winter and rainy season, longing for the rainy days during the hot summer days. We always expect and want things which are just opposite to us. Rather, try to feel and enjoy the seasons as they are. Cherish its true beauty and love of life as it is given to you.

      Options make life better but loving and cherishing the things which we have will definitely make our life even more beautiful. Love everything around you and find the beauty of the present moment. Make life simple yet beautiful. Happiness lies in accepting that everything around us is just beautiful in its own way.

 

 

Be Your Best Companion

 

         

     We human beings think a lot, speak a lot, advice a lot more and we always have something running inside our mind. We do many things which keep us occupied and our mind is never free but here comes a big question “How often do we speak out our mind to ourselves?” When we are happy we never talk to us, even when we are sad we never try to talk to ourselves, ultimately we never ever try to talk to ourselves at any point in our life rather we just think and let that feeling vanish off after sometime.

     Speak to yourself. When you are happy talk to yourself and tell how much happiness you feel from inside, when you are sad speak to yourself and tell that it is ok to go through few tough days in life. By talking to your ownself you will understand yourself better and you can have a clear mind which will help you to be happy.

     The happiest, peaceful and successful people in the world are the ones who talk to themselves whenever they feel either high or low in life. Be that kind of individual who can increase their self-confidence just by speaking to themselves. Now, speak to yourself about the best day of your life and relive that moments of happiness.

Control Your Thoughts And Master Your Mind: A New Insight

 

     We human beings are made up of two great gems which exist within everyone of us. We have the ultimate control over one and the other one is out of our control. The one which is not controlled by us works properly most the time and the one which is controlled by us remains uncontrolled.

     Can you guess anything?

     The two great gems are our heart and mind. Our heart is controlled by our creator and so it beats without our instructions. On the other hand, we have full control over our mind. A human mind works 24/7 from our birth till death. We cannot possess a mind without any kind of thoughts. Have you ever had a clean and blank mind without any kind of thoughts, it is impossible. Our mind revolves around something and it will convert them into chain of thoughts. Our mind is our greatest friend as well as our greatest enemy. When we have a control over our mind and thoughts we can lead a happy life by befriending it. If you make your mind revolve around all unwanted thoughts which is of no use it will turn into your greatest enemy. It is equal to a washing machine which runs without any clothes. Simply it is useless.

     The heart which is controlled by our creator possesses all kinds of good things like love, compassion, happiness and kindness. We say “I love you” from the bottom of our heart not from the bottom of our mind. When something or someone hurts us our heart will bleed not our mind because our hearts is filled with all beautiful feelings and emotions. On the other hand, our mind possesses many bad qualities like envy, hate and revenge. Our heart never gives us ideas to take revenge against someone or to hate and envy others rather our mind will remind us to do such kind of things which is utterly bad.

     Our mind can be controlled only by us. So, have a control over it by thinking about all good things. Develop and use it for your welfare. Don’t let the thoughts just occupy you rather master your thoughts. Choose your thoughts and think about them. Don’t ever think of any random things which is ultimately of no use. When you think of all random thoughts which does not have any kind of meaning switch on your conscious mind and think about the things which is required for your growth. Plan things, learn things, improve your memory power, think about things which can make a impact and can help you as well the people around you. The people who have mastered their mind and thoughts are still remembered by everyone and they have a place for themselves in the history of mankind . We remember Shakespeare who has created characters which can create a impact within us even today, we remember all the writers, inventors, historians and leaders who had controlled their thoughts and invested them in all valuable resources.

     Here, it is upto you to choose a wise mind or a waste mind.

Memories and Maturity

     We human beings cherish and love most of our yesterdays. We call them as beautiful and pleasant memories. We talk and chat about all the happy moments which happened in our life and sometimes we even feel that we have lived happily in our past compared to our present life. That is why we consider our school and college days as more special ones. On the other hand we think that we have became more responsible and matured human being today. Here, there is a clash between memories and maturity. There comes a wonderful question “Does memories give us happiness or maturity gives us happiness?”

      Most of us will suddenly tell that memories gives us more happiness comparing to our maturity. Here, life teaches us that there is only a small thin line between memories and maturity. Even during our yesterdays we considered that we are more maturity and also today we think that our maturity level has increased. During each phase of our life our maturity levels will get increased naturally but it is in our hands to now allow that maturity to affect our happiness. The truth is maturity does not stop us from creating more memories rather we ourselves restrict our limitations.

      Be matured but at the same time never lose the happy side of yourself which you loved the most. Whatever you do today is going to be a memory tomorrow. We will remember only our memories but not our maturities. 

Set A Good Example

      The habits we practice, the character we possess and the deeds we follow are not the ones which we have learned ourselves rather we might have acquired many of our behaviours from our family members whether knowingly or unknowingly.

       If your friends say that you are perfect in all the works you do, they might praise you when you stand for the rights things. Here, you might wonder from where you have learned this quality of perfection and standing for the truth. You might even praise yourself for being such a good and genuine person but you fail to understand that you have learned many best things from your family members but you might have implemented that in a different way.

        If you are perfect in your work you might have learned that perfection from your mother who is perfect in feeding you food on correct time. If you think that you speak and stand for the truth you might have learned that quality from your father who always stands up for the right things.

         In some way or the other we all learn many things from the people who we are closely bonded with. We observe them and we imitate their character and attitude unknowingly. Here, we all have to understand that the character we build, the habits we develop are going to have an effect on our future generation. Be conscious in what you are doing because the younger ones in your family will definitely learn something from you. So, build your habits in the best possible way and do good things which will have a great impact on the younger ones in your family. You are going to be a example for someone in some way so be cautions that you should be referred for good examples.

Living A Life of Ease

      There are three kinds of people in this world. The people belong to each category are different from one another but at times they seem to be interconnected. The people who belong to the first category are the individuals who are negative minded or bad. They will do all sorts of unwanted things like gossiping, speaking unknown facts about others, being selfish and so many other things. These kind of people are already bad themselves but they will expect the people around them to be good and kind towards them. If other individuals do something against them they will complain as if they are good themselves. It is hard to change this kind of individuals because they won’t even lend the ears to listen.

     The individuals who belong to the second category are the ones who are good and they will try and do good things for others but their biggest drawback is when other individuals around them does something bad it will be hard for them to accept that. Later, they will think that the world is bad and why they alone should be good. They will have so many questions about themselves and the people they see in life. Even though, they are good themselves it will be hard for them to face the negativity. Later, they will mingle with the first category people and only few from this category will move forward and reach the third category(Only Few).

      The majority of the people in this world belong to the first category. Approximately, upto 65% of the people in this world belong to the first category. The people who belong to the second category are upto 30%. Here, the real problem is the people who belong to the first category could think that they are in the second category even most of the people in this world think that they are right and others are wrong.

       Finally, the people who belong to the third category are only 5% and it is rare to find this kind of individuals in life. Most, of the time the third category people are the ones who are in their old age. They could have reached here after learning and overcoming many hardships and struggles in life. This people are the kind of individuals who are truly good and their biggest strength is they never find faults with others rather they accept people. They will be genuinely good, kind-hearted and loving towards all their fellow humans irrespective of what they do to them. We can find most of our grandparents with this kind of qualities. This is the kind of wisdom we get after living 95% of our lifetime in this earth. The people who understand this early in life are very few but once we acquire this quality of being good and kind without any sort of expectation from others then life will bless you with unlimited things which you cannot even imagine. Life will became a blessing when we have this quality. People around may think that we are normal as they are but the one who possesses this quality alone knows that how beautiful and ease life is.

    

 

Inseperable Part of Human Existence

      Maya Angelou said “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”. Humans are the most emotional beings on the planet earth. Feelings and emotions are deeply rooted within every individual. It is hard to make a person control his emotions because emotions are uncontrollable and it somehow finds a own place for itself.

      Emotions and feelings do not mean anything sad or negative rather emotions are just infinite. Only few emotions were given names and other sorts of emotions can only be felt. So, be conscious about transmitting your emotions in the form of words either the spoken or the written word. All the words carry some sort of emotion which will eventually make the other individual to feel yourself.

       People will identity and know you by the things you do in your given lifespan. As, we all know and believe that millions of humans have walked before us, millions of humans are walking with us and millions of humans will definitely walk behind us. World will see different kinds of individuals and it will just remember the ones who made it feel special and great.

Start Now - Today is the Best Day

      We human beings often say that we are waiting for the perfect time and correct opportunity but there is nothing called perfect timing and opportunity in life. If you love to achieve your dreams in life then this is the right time to start off if you have not yet started. Time and tide waits for none. If you miss your today there will be another tomorrow but that tomorrow will not compensate the day you have missed. So, start your ground work today and that will eventually lead to the great victory tomorrow.

       Don’t postpone things in life by giving silly and blame excuses. Giving excuses is easy but working and achieving things in life is difficult. Never blame other for your missed out opportunities rather believe that you are made for greater things in life. Life never stops at any point so never restrict your limitations from dreaming bigger and achieving bigger in life.

        Improve yourself in all areas of life. Life cannot became complete and happy by possessing the one ingredient called professional success rather happiness and achievement in life is measured by the equivalent success in all areas of life (Personal, professional and social). If you are weak in any of the areas then start your ground work today to improve that. Life is not a line rather it is a circle which is full –fledged so improve in all areas of life.

 

Find out the True Self

       We human beings most often have the same doubts and questions in life. It is hard to answer the questions and it is even harder to give correct answers for that questions. Can you able to guess anything!!!

Do I overestimate myself?

Do I underestimate myself?

      This are the two ultimate questions which is hard to answer but the ones who self-estimates themselves correctly have the chance and possibility of achieving anything in life. When, we overestimate our potential and talents we became lethargic towards our goals. On the other hand, when we underestimate ourselves we tend to fill our mind with all sorts of negativity.

      Aristotle said “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom”. Here, the only best way to overcome the issue of this overestimating and underestimating is to have a proper control over yourself which means the act of self- control. A person who has a great control over his own self and follows strict discipline even in performing their daily routine and tasks will never overestimate or underestimate themselves. They’ll clearly know who they are and what their ability, potential & capacity is. They will possess one of the greatest quality which many human beings fail to notice is the quality of working to their maximum potential and possesing constant self-growth.

       Be that kind of individual who takes the best out of them by all their hard work and dedication. Those individuals will never estimate themselves rather they will believe in themselves. 

Our Dreams Define Us

      Every individual at some point in their life will have some great dreams and aspirations. It is very common to have dreams because no one will stop us from just dreaming about things in life. Only few people achieve their dreams because they work hard towards that irrespective of all the positive and negative comments they face in life. Everyone around us won’t understand our dreams because each individual in different in their own ways. We cannot blame them for not believing in us. Everyone will have a “because” to prove that our dreams are not worthy enough and few will even tell that it is just the waste of time.

     To have a dream is common and to achieve that dream is called success. So, work hard in what you believe because you surely will have a reason to prove the world that every dream of every person can come true when they fully believes in themselves. Don’t lose hope at any point in life and never question your faith and belief. Do whatever possible to achieve your dream but make sure you don’t take any short cuts.

     “Our ground work will help us to reach the sky”. Have strong basements and build your dream, think about it, dream about it, work hard towards it and finally believe. Shut out all the other noises and opinions around you. When you totally believe in yourself and your dreams then no one can stop you from achieving that in life. Be passionate and never became tired. Have that burning fire of desire to achieve your dream which might now be unknown to the world. It's absolutely fine if no one believes in your dreams because an unknown and unacceptable dreams have more value.

Life is Everything

     Bill Gates once said “Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can’t lose”. We human beings have the tendency of overestimating our knowledge, wisdom and skills by thinking that we are good enough to achieve everything in life. We want the graph of our success to be high and when the graph slows down or reaches down we fail to accept that. Here is where we all go wrong in life. Success is hard to attain and even harder to sustain. No one in this world can be successful all the time and there are replacements to fill our space and void. So, don’t overestimate yourself at any point in life.

     Success brings happiness and joy but failures and rejections are our friend, philosophers and guides. Failures will teach us the most important life lessons. Learn from your failures and don’t approach failures with the negative mindset and attitude. When your mind and heart starts to believe that the failures are inevitable then it will became harder to achieve success in life. Think of failures as the indicators which indicates us to work even more harder and smarter in our chosen path.

     Be unshakeable either by success or by failures because we are just visitors to this earth. We are here to learn and grow. Life will always hold something for us to learn. The one who thinks that they know everything fails in life and the one who accepts the reality of life wins by learning and growing.

Three Common Traits of Successful People

     We human beings look up to the individuals who are successful in their respective fields. We drive some inspiration and motivation from those personalities. Everyone will have different favourites from various walks of life but all the so called successful people will have few qualities in common. Here are the three common qualities or traits that all the successful and happy people in the world have in common.

1.      The first and the best quality all the people we look up to possess is the quality of respecting their parents and considering them as their role model. They believe that their parents are the best humans that they have ever seen in their life. Starting from Bill Gates to the grocery shop owner whom you consider as successful will possess the habit putting their parents in a pedestal, worshipping them and preaching their values. Recently, Bill Gates said that “My dad was the real Bill Gates. He was all the things I strive to be”. This proves that parents are the great influencers in every successful individual’s life.

2.      The second most important aspect many successful people posses is the act of believing in the creation and the creator. They will be highly a spiritual being and will believe in the power of the universe and god. 

3.      The third most special quality the successful people have is the practice of learning from everyone around them. They will try to learn the perspective of others and they will even learn from other persons mistakes.

      If you love to grow in your life and be successful and happy in what you do then learn from everyone you look up to. 

 

Improving Self-esteem

     It is common to feel low at times in life. Each of us will feel the lack of confidence in ourselves during certain times. To rebuild our self-esteem and confidence we can do certain things like reading, listening to music, writing something and watching a movie but apart from all this there is one best method which we can use to regain our confidence.

     Doing things which people say that is impossible by us will give us an sense of satisfaction but doing things which we believe that is impossible by us will give us an extreme confidence in ourselves. For example, we may be poor in dancing, drawing and we might lack some sort of skills which we try to improve but that could have end up being an impossible one. Here, during the time when you face that extreme low in your life try and figure out a particular skill which you lack in yourself and practice it and do it till it turns out to be perfect.

     So, by doing the things which we believe that is impossible by us will give us an satisfaction and confidence about ourselves. It will finally boost our self-esteem and will indicate that nothing is impossible in this world. 

 

Be there for Others

     In today’s modern world we human beings care more about ourselves and our individualities. That is absolutely a good one until it never hurts anyone around us. Don’t be too much self-centered because we need our fellow beings during our dark phase of life as well as to share our happiness. Don’t build wall around yourself by letting others outside and cocooning yourself inside that wall. Rather be there for others and lend your shoulders for them when they face tough times in life and be there with them to celebrate their happiness as well.

     There is nothing beautiful in this world than being there for others when they need us the most. Life will became hard when we even try to distance ourselves from others because it is impossible to live without human ties. Protect your individuality but at the same time don’t be over protective.

     Never try to stand alone rather try and be along with the people whom you love and the people who loves you. Both are important in our life. Believe in unity and prove to the world that “Unity is Strength”.

Live and grow together.

 

 

The Highest form of Self-love

     We human beings expect everyone around us to be perfect and be disciplined but we many times fail to access our own discipline. At first, what we expect from others should be there within us. When we expect the people around us to be the good humans with all the positive character traits we should also possess the same. Self-discipline is the basic key to master all the beautiful things in life.

     Practice good habits and never leave them at any point in life because it is hard to regain good habits after losing it. Do your duty and work properly without giving any blame excuses. If something feels wrong, try and reconsider it and decide the best thing which feels correct to your instincts. A self- disciplined person will be an example for everyone around him. Don’t preach others to follow good things in life rather be an living example by being an strict disciplinarian for yourself.

      Discipline yourself and became the better version of yourself.